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Many years ago, when I first read about orgasm denial, my initial reaction was to furrow my brow and mutter “Okay … but why?”. Initially, I could not relate, I couldn’t get my head around why anyone would purposely not orgasm or be so cruel as to not allow their partner to come!
I was raised by a generation of women who asserted sexual liberation and autonomy in the social and political movements of the 60s and 70s. They had burned their bras in revolt and uprising against the systems and beliefs that kept people, especially women, small and quiet. The same systems and beliefs that expected women to not only barely participate in their own sexuality, but to prioritise their (mostly male) partners’ pleasure over their own. By the time I was of the age that I was having sex and orgasms. It had been well and truly ingrained in me that I, and I alone, was responsible for my orgasm. It was mine to have or not, to share or conceal, and mine to revel in. The idea that after all that had transpired historically, that I, or anyone of any gender, might give up this intimate pleasure to another seemed ludicrous! Until I tried it.